The Big “Why?”

When we were on the verge of becoming parents, we were showered with well-meaning advice and recollections from people who had ‘been there, done that’. One recurring comment was that along with the terrible twos we should order an extra bundle of patience for the ‘why’ stage.

So, when Chief was on the edge of turning two, and Munch was freshly sprung onto the world, we braced ourselves for this torrent. If there was going to be any boundary testing surely it would be now we had a new addition to our family?

We did have some questions directed our way, why is the sky blue, why is the sun hot, why do ants live in colonies, that sort of thing. But not the top of the lungs screeching of why do we have to leave the park/ stay in our seat/ not splash the furthest in the swimming pool questions that we were expecting. We thought that perhaps we’d had some sort of lucky escape from those, and wondered whether that meant something else was lurking around the corner. Then it hit us. We were going through an almighty ‘why’ stage, it was just that the questions were coming from us.

“Why are your trousers on your head?”
“Why is your t-shirt on your foot?”
“Why are you wearing my socks?”
“Why are you taking a close up photograph of your brother’s ear?”
And, perhaps my favourite, “why is there toast on the window?!”

The questions were always met with the same, confident, “why not?”.

Chief commented during a conversation this morning that adults should be able to have days of running around a park having fun too. Yes, why not? Why can’t we engage with the world a little more, leave the bill paying to a tightly scheduled slot and kick back and relax a bit. It shouldn’t have taken three young children to impress this upon us but, somewhat embarrassingly, it did.

8 – 14 May 2017 is Mental Health Awareness Week here in the UK. One campaign coming loud and clear through social media channels is about self-care. The idea of running wildly through a park with the wind in your hair instead of staying in and doing the chores is perhaps a good step in the right direction to achieving this.

So, next time you’re pondering leaving the vacuuming and reading a chapter of a new book instead, or ignoring the cobwebs in the corner of your rooms and taking a long walk or run, please, think of my boys and say “why not?”.



Pink Pear Bear
Cuddle Fairy
12th May 2017


I agree. In my years working in offices, I often remarked that we needed a playground area and time out to enjoy it – as children do at school. Some people thought I was crazy, but others agreed. At what point do we grow out of being able to play and feel we have to remain stuck at our workstations all day? There is no rule book stating that we must give up our playtime in order to become adults. In sixth form, I was part of a group which tended to be outside playing ball games rather than sitting inside chatting. We were in the minority but we enjoyed the breaks.

Yes! Some offices do provide a much more relaxed and playful working environment to great effect – think of the UK head offices of Google, for example. I’m a big believer in this, as well as the 15% rule at companies like 3M 🙂

Oooh yes!! Why do adults always have to be so ‘adulty’??! I’d love to run around like my children, with crazy abandon, but always feel the need to be the serious adult. It’s something I like to think that if lots of people started doing it, more people would follow, and it would become the norm!
We are very much in the ‘why’ stage with our four year old-it’s been constant for about a year and a half! The three year old doesn’t ask too much, but that’s probably because the oldest has the ‘why’ monopoly!!
Thanks for linking with #bigpinklink

I feel lucky to have mostly missed it with ours, although we definitely find ourselves saying it more and more! I’m totally with you on the running around and not being so sensible! I’ll have to work on it 😉

Thanks for the lovely advice to stop vacuuming and adapt to some much need self-care and mindfulness! Why not is brilliant? #bigpinklink xoxo

Thank you! Yes, I can certainly learn a lot from my boys 🙂

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