Time

Time has stopped me in my tracks this weekend. The realisation that I have two sons hurtling towards their seventh and fifth birthdays seems unreal. Arranging celebrations is one thing but we are also redecorating their bedrooms over the next couple of months, and the themes and detail that are being considered are far removed from the ones that they loved when they were pre-schoolers.

In some cultures children under the age of seven are believed to be ‘in God’s hands’. Beyond their seventh birthday they begin to make their own life decisions, and step towards building the person that they will become as an adult, but before then they are not restricted. They are neither pure nor impure. They are treasured. Their seventh birthday is a milestone and we are about to come across that for the first time.

It’s not only age that is a factor. Unpacking their school bags I found information on Year 1 and Year 2 tucked inside. I’ve only just about got my head around having two children at school, never mind them moving up and out of the Early Years Foundation Stage. I’m not sure I’m quite ready for both of my older children to be in a more formal level of education with specific homework and learning themes.

I’m sure that we all want time to slow down on occasion. We all have our moments when we wish we could go back in time, and perhaps even forwards. And as we sit and ponder this, time quietly ticks away. My husband recently asked me whether if, given the choice, I would go back in time and talk to my former self, or go forwards in time and see what the future holds. The more I thought about it, the harder the decision became. I think on balance it would have to be going backwards. I would give anything for another moment with my grandparents. I’d love to tell them that they would have three more great-grandchildren. That we would always make sure that they and all that they were and did were remembered and talked about as our family grows up. But going forwards might have its advantages too. Knowing if there’s some big event around the corner that I could prepare for better. Knowing if my health improves, stays the same, or deteriorates further would be useful. Knowing how much I should push myself now and whether or not that would have a positive or negative impact. Oh the decisions and thoughts!

What would you choose? I’d be fascinated to know if you have a strong feeling one way or another or might sit on the fence a little like me?!

For now though, I’m going to treasure all that I have and head back into my family life for the remainder of the weekend.

 

Pink Pear Bear
16th July 2017

14 comments

I would definitely go backwards knowing what I now know – hindsight is a wonderful thing. I would tell my younger self to be braver and more courageous. Having reached the age of 60 I recently decided to live in the moment and not dwell too much on the future. Making the most of everyday is important. Living with chronic illness has changed my perspective.

Good for you 🙂 I’d like to know if making alterations to my lifestyle now might be beneficial long term for my health, but I think the pull to go back and talk to myself in my younger years and spend more time with people who have now passed away would win. It’s funny how the more you think about it, the more pros and cons there are. Good job it’s a theoretical question!

I think 5 and 7 are wonderful ages, I call these the golden years, enjoy every minute. #BigPinkLink

Thank you. Yes, it does seem like a lovely age. We are trying to embrace every moment 🙂

I always want time to slow down, but there are so many amazing things to come and I need to remember that too xx

Absolutely! All about making the most of whatever comes xx

It’s a tough one. I’d love to go back and share my current experience with my younger self. But having said that, I’m truly happy with most things in life, especially my husband. I wouldn’t want to change anything in the past that might jeopardise my life path in such a way that I didn’t meet him. Going forwards, if it’s something bad then I’d rather not know, and will deal with it when it happens rather than waiting (especially if it’s something which cannot be changed). If it’s something good, I don’t want my current self to become complacent. If I’m working towards good times, then I’ll keep at it and enjoy the times when I get there xx

I agree. I wouldn’t want to change anything in my past because that’s led to where I am today, and I wouldn’t want to alter my future either. I would like the chance to spend time with loved ones who have passed though, and I would be interested to see what happens to my health in the future xx

It’s a tough one, for as much as there are some things I’d like to change from the past, I wouldn’t want to be anywhere other than where I am right now, so changing things would only spoil it. I definitely think time is going to fast when it comes to L growing up, so I try really hard to savour every moment and breathe him in, at least until he tells me to go away, which gives me about 5 minutes of cuddle time in any one go!!

Haha, yes mine are a bit like that too! I do try to enjoy and embrace every moment, without dwelling on the enormity of life and forgetting to live it 🙂

I have days where I’d love to go back in time to re-live certain moments, but at the same time I wouldn’t change where I am today with my children. Time is a tricky one! #bigpinklink

It is indeed! I wouldn’t want to mess with time if I had the opportunity to, but equally the appeal of seeing loved ones again is very strong! Thanks for your comment 🙂

Oh I would definitely go back in time, I’d much prefer to leave the future as a surprise- good question though!! Thank you for sharing with #bigpinklink x

The more I think about it, the more questions it raises! Generally I think it’s better to leave time as it is, but if I had to choose I think I would go back 🙂

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